i attended two free workshops and they helped me more than many paid for hours of therapy and coaching. time to charge folks like me. i want you to coach my adult granddaughters and the grandson’s too!
Brilliant as ever Sara. So glad to hear this has worked out, and I'm certain all the work you do in the newsletter did a perfect job of screening for the right kind of people.
On the sickness! I was knocked out in December, being very hard on myself, came across this quote from "Letters to a Young Poet" and it knocked me off my feet:
"Why do you want to shut out of your life any uneasiness, any misery, any depression, since after all you don't know what work these conditions are doing inside you? Why do you want to persecute yourself with the question of where all this is coming from and where it is going?
Since you know, after all, that you are in the midst of transitions and you wished for nothing so much as to change. If there is anything unhealthy in your reactions, just bear in mind that sickness is the means by which an organism frees itself from what is alien; so one must simply help it to be sick, to have its whole sickness and to break out with it, since that is the way it gets better."
Gahhhhh!! Oh my goodness, what a gift to stumble across that when you're in the thick of it. It comforted me just reading it now. Thank you so much for sharing!
I write, study, and practice change. A couple of thoughts on your observations...
First, it is common to make things complicated. Simplicity takes time. The judges on Project Runway taught me about self-editing. I am not into fashion or even very visual...I am a word person...but seeing someone who has thrown every idea into an outfit makes it clear what editing is about. The quote "If I had more time, I would have written a shorter letter" applies here, but your point about learning from the data is more important than time. Through experience, it is easier to see what needs to be cut.
Second, we are also faced with the predicament described first by John Wanamaker. "Half the money I spend on advertising is wasted; the trouble is I don’t know which half.” The same is true in coaching. We don't know as a coach or a coachee what will be the piece that completes the puzzle. Often it will be different for different people. The art is being able to react to the flow...to double down on what is working and follow it while letting go of what is not adding value...recognizing that they have value, but maybe not right now.
It is easier to cut what is there then it is to start with nothing...
"The art is being able to react to the flow...to double down on what is working and follow it while letting go of what is not adding value...recognizing that they have value, but maybe not right now." -- EXACTLY!! Thanks so much, Chris.
(I’m loving all those memes at the end!) I hope you’re feeling more like yourself after Flumageddon. This is just thrilling!! You’re such an inspo! I’m doing some scary stuff right now, which is only going to get scarier over the next few months. It’s so uncomfy to wake up every day with your base line at Anxiety-of-your-own-making, knowing full well it’s not going to end for awhile. But I can already see the fruits and how drastically this going to change me. I hope you celebrate your own transformation right along with these badass women!
i attended two free workshops and they helped me more than many paid for hours of therapy and coaching. time to charge folks like me. i want you to coach my adult granddaughters and the grandson’s too!
Wow, I'm so glad to hear that!! Send the kids my way. xoxoxo
Brilliant as ever Sara. So glad to hear this has worked out, and I'm certain all the work you do in the newsletter did a perfect job of screening for the right kind of people.
On the sickness! I was knocked out in December, being very hard on myself, came across this quote from "Letters to a Young Poet" and it knocked me off my feet:
"Why do you want to shut out of your life any uneasiness, any misery, any depression, since after all you don't know what work these conditions are doing inside you? Why do you want to persecute yourself with the question of where all this is coming from and where it is going?
Since you know, after all, that you are in the midst of transitions and you wished for nothing so much as to change. If there is anything unhealthy in your reactions, just bear in mind that sickness is the means by which an organism frees itself from what is alien; so one must simply help it to be sick, to have its whole sickness and to break out with it, since that is the way it gets better."
Gahhhhh!! Oh my goodness, what a gift to stumble across that when you're in the thick of it. It comforted me just reading it now. Thank you so much for sharing!
I write, study, and practice change. A couple of thoughts on your observations...
First, it is common to make things complicated. Simplicity takes time. The judges on Project Runway taught me about self-editing. I am not into fashion or even very visual...I am a word person...but seeing someone who has thrown every idea into an outfit makes it clear what editing is about. The quote "If I had more time, I would have written a shorter letter" applies here, but your point about learning from the data is more important than time. Through experience, it is easier to see what needs to be cut.
Second, we are also faced with the predicament described first by John Wanamaker. "Half the money I spend on advertising is wasted; the trouble is I don’t know which half.” The same is true in coaching. We don't know as a coach or a coachee what will be the piece that completes the puzzle. Often it will be different for different people. The art is being able to react to the flow...to double down on what is working and follow it while letting go of what is not adding value...recognizing that they have value, but maybe not right now.
It is easier to cut what is there then it is to start with nothing...
"The art is being able to react to the flow...to double down on what is working and follow it while letting go of what is not adding value...recognizing that they have value, but maybe not right now." -- EXACTLY!! Thanks so much, Chris.
(I’m loving all those memes at the end!) I hope you’re feeling more like yourself after Flumageddon. This is just thrilling!! You’re such an inspo! I’m doing some scary stuff right now, which is only going to get scarier over the next few months. It’s so uncomfy to wake up every day with your base line at Anxiety-of-your-own-making, knowing full well it’s not going to end for awhile. But I can already see the fruits and how drastically this going to change me. I hope you celebrate your own transformation right along with these badass women!
Thank you so much!! And good on you for working through the fear. The only way. Wishing you lots of luck and lots of FUN!